Online EMDR & Trauma Therapy - In Lisbon and Worldwide.
Integrating EMDR, Gestalt Therapy and Internal Family Systems (IFS)
For women and men who are done abandoning themselves to belong.
Psychotherapist · Podcast host · Author of the forthcoming book You Don't Have to Abandon Yourself to Belong
“EMDR is not magic, but for me it felt pretty close to it.”
Emails from clients, shared with their permission. Names removed.
Online, worldwide
For when something drastic has to change.
A concentrated period of psychotherapy: weeks, not fifty minutes at a time. Two weeks of daily two-hour sessions, a week to integrate, then two more weeks. Tailor-made around you, combining EMDR, IFS-informed parts work, Gestalt and somatic therapy.
- 90-minute assessment
- Your own framework and phases
- Custom workbooks and reflection materials
- Follow-up session option
I offer online EMDR therapy for trauma, CPTSD, anxiety and attachment wounds to clients worldwide, as well as in-person EMDR therapy in Lisbon, Portugal. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based trauma therapy widely recommended for PTSD and complex trauma. I work online with clients across London, the UK, Europe and internationally, and see clients in person in Lisbon. My work is attachment-informed, allowing us to process both early relational wounds and more recent traumatic experiences so that you can move forward with greater emotional freedom, stability and choice.
If you’re considering EMDR therapy, you’re welcome to contact me to arrange an initial consultation and see whether working together feels like the right next step for you.
Life is precious. It’s a gift.
You want to seize it, shape it and create your dream.
A dream which enriches you and your loved ones.
And ripples out to benefit the world.
A life where your heart expands with joy.
Your soul soars with freedom and purpose.
Where you feel deep safety and true belonging.
Without shrinking. Without performing. Without betraying yourself to keep the peace.
Not realistic some might say. But you know settling is unthinkable.
Yet you recognise you need support. You’ve read the books. Done the therapy. Come as far as you can on your own.
But you’re stuck.
Disempowered. Procrastinating. Scared. Not trusting . Self -criticising . Abandoning parts of yourself in order to fit in. Over -accommodating others. Playing small. Self -sacrificing. Role-playing. Or playing out hidden loyalties that keep you chained.
You need someone to help figure out your blind spots. The subtle and ingenious ways you self-sabotage. Someone who understands your vision. Someone who can help you connect up the dots.
Someone who supports you to reclaim all the parts of yourself. The powerful parts. The creative parts. The trusting parts. The worthy parts.
The right kind of support to help you break through.
And create the abundant life of your dreams.
A Warm Welcome!
I’m Alexandra, an attachment-informed EMDR Therapist and Gestalt Therapist. I trained for 6 years at the Gestalt Centre, London in the UK. I got accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy in 2015 and by the EMDR Association UK and Europe in 2019. I divide my time between London, UK and Lisbon, Portugal. I work online and in-person (in Lisbon). I support you to heal trauma, anxiety, and self-sabotage—so that you have the power to create the joyful, free yet safe life of your dreams.
More about me here.
A quick hello from me — so you can get a feel for what I bring to the work.
“I feel much calmer now.”
“The distressing memories that used to affect me are far less present”
Therapy for Women & Men Who Are Done Abandoning Themselves To Belong
Whether you’re searching for:
Therapy for anxiety or burnout
PTSD or CPTSD recovery
Support with complex trauma or childhood emotional neglect
Healing attachment wounds and shifting attachment styles
Online therapy with a trauma-informed, EMDR approach
You're in the right place.
I help you:
Stop procrastinating and self-sabotaging
Break patterns of low self-worth, overworking, or people-pleasing
Feel less anxious and more grounded
Shift perfectionism and imposter syndrome
Heal old wounds using attachment-informed EMDR
Build secure, empowered relationships—with others and themselves
Recover from complex trauma or developmental trauma
Finally believe they deserve success, joy, love and abundance
Who I Work With
I work with women and men who are thoughtful, motivated and willing to look honestly at themselves. You may have already done some inner work (not a prerequisite), read the books, reflected deeply — and sense there is another layer ready to be explored.
You know something needs to shift. You feel the cost of staying the same. And you’re ready to engage in consistent, depth-oriented work now — not someday.
Many of my clients are navigating attachment trauma, complex trauma (CPTSD), major life transitions or identity shifts. Some are living internationally or adjusting to life in Lisbon and looking for English-speaking, depth-oriented therapy.
You Don’t Have to Abandon Yourself to Belong
Drawing on attachment theory and years of clinical work, my book explores the quiet ways we abandon ourselves to belong, and how to come home to ourselves without losing our people.
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You Don’t Have To Abandon Yourself To Belong
Conversations with leading voices in psychology, neuroscience and human connection, including Sarah Peyton, Dr Devon Price, Steven D’Souza and Mark Brayne, on the patterns that keep us abandoning ourselves, and how to stop.
Latest episodes from the YouTube channel
Choose the depth and pace that fits where you are
Online, worldwide. In person in Lisbon.
Weekly therapy
Consistent, depth-oriented work on a weekly basis, starting with a one-off assessment. Short or longer term, depending on your needs.
EMDR Intensives
Accelerated trauma processing in one structured, contained 3- or 6-hour session. Payment plan available.
Therapy Immersion
Five weeks, 40 hours of daily sessions, built around you. For when you're ready to make the work the priority.
You’re Not Meant to Stay Where You Are
At some point, coping stops being enough.
The strategies that once kept you safe begin to feel restrictive. The patterns that once protected you begin to cost you.
Trauma responses are intelligent adaptations. They are not character flaws.
But there comes a moment when staying the same costs more than changing.
If you’re here, you likely feel that moment.
I help you reclaim all of you — and build from there.
Let’s talk about what you need and see if we’re a good fit.
Book a free 15-minute call here
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Attachment trauma, generational trauma, and collective trauma can shape our beliefs, relationships, and sense of safety in the world. This article explores how trauma can be passed down through families and communities, and how EMDR therapy can help process these patterns and create lasting change.