The Safety Switch
A self-paced online programme to develop and embodied and constant sense of safety
You feel mostly calm, mostly trusting. You feel it in your body. Your heart feels open and expansive and warm. Even when things don’t seem to be working out for you: whether your partner seems preoccupied and less available. Whether you feel a bit lost with your direction in life. Whether your income is not looking great at the moment.
You’re able to tune into your body and feel that inner sanctuary of safety. That all is well and that you are safe. And that carries you through. And you make decisions from that place. You act from that feeling. And guess what—things do work out for you. The relationship flourishes. The money and opportunities roll in consistently. You seem to be in just the right place at the right time. You know when to act. Some say you’re lucky. You know it’s not that. It’s because you feel safe in your body. Safe enough to trust yourself. Safe enough to trust life and others. Safe enough to know you can count on yourself, that you will get caught if you fall.
Or maybe you don’t feel the above, which is why you’re reading this page. Maybe you didn’t even realise it was a thing—to feel safe. Not feeling safe is so ‘normal’ to you that you weren’t aware there could be a way to feel differently.
Until maybe a conversation, or something you read, or something a professional said made you consider it. Maybe you just figured out that feeling anxious, hyper-vigilant, tense or panicky likely meant you didn’t feel safe. Maybe intellectually you considered yourself safe, but that’s as far as the feeling went.
This was me. Despite being a therapist with many years’ experience. Despite eight years of personal therapy. Despite supporting others to feel safe, life events led me to realise that my own sense of safety was not that embodied or constant.
It was confusing, as people often called me a safe pair of hands. Clients often talked of feeling contained with me. Yet I was beginning to realise that appearing safe is not the same as an embodied feeling of safety. Indeed, if we have experienced attachment trauma, then a part of us that is in freeze or disconnected can be operating in the background. This can give rise to the term functional freeze. We go about our daily lives and are competent, even successful. However, there is a sense of never fully being able to relax. Or an inner anxiety that doesn’t leave. It could also show up as overworking, procrastinating, impatience, and many other ways.
The good news is that once we have identified this, then we are on the way to shifting it. And we need to do this in a way that brings our body on board and along for the ride. I lead you through experiments that include the body and the mind.
Many approaches help you understand you’re safe, but your nervous system remains unconvinced. Others focus purely on sensation, without meaning or integration. This visualisation bridges that gap. It offers your body a felt experience of safety—warmth, openness, steadiness—while also giving your mind a coherent internal story: I am safe. I can trust myself. I will be caught if I fall.
Over time, this combination begins to rewire not just how you feel in the moment, but how you make decisions, how you relate, and how you show up in your life. Safety stops being something you chase or try to maintain, and becomes a place you can reliably return to—even when things feel uncertain.
For those who have lived in a state of functional freeze—competent on the outside, tense or disconnected underneath—this approach is especially powerful. It doesn’t force change. It brings your system along gently, allowing safety to become embodied rather than performed.
What this practice is (and what it isn’t)
This is not about positive thinking, visualising outcomes, or convincing yourself that everything is fine.
It is about giving your nervous system a direct experience of safety, again and again, until it no longer feels unfamiliar or fleeting.
You don’t need to analyse anything.
You don’t need to “do it right.”
You don’t need to feel calm straight away.
You simply need to show up and allow your system to learn something new.
How to use this
You can return to this visualisation whenever you feel unsettled, disconnected, or unsure.
You might use it:
before making an important decision
when you notice yourself spiralling or overthinking
when old relational or money fears are activated
or simply as a way of coming home to yourself
With repetition, the sense of safety begins to generalise. You don’t just feel it during the practice—you start to carry it with you.
Who this is especially for
This work tends to resonate deeply if you:
function well on the outside but feel tense, flat or on edge underneath
have done a lot of therapy but still don’t feel consistently safe
struggle to trust yourself, others, or life—even when things are objectively “fine”
want change that feels integrated, not forced
If you’re ready to stop managing yourself and start feeling safe in your body, this is a place to begin.
What You’ll Experience
Guided visualisation practices inspired by EMDR and Gestalt Therapy
Practices for those who find it difficult to visualise
Freedom to go at your own pace, with lifetime access.
Member of the online community. I pop in with guidance and reflections to keep you supported along the way.
How It Works
Evergreen & Self-Led: Start any time and move at your own rhythm.
Lifetime Access: Revisit the practices whenever you need them.
Community Connection: Optional shared space where I join a few times a week to answer questions and share guidance.